I received a couple of e-mails on the subject of the Indiana pizza restaurant which said pretty much the same thing. I went eenie-meenie-minie-moe and picked this one from reader Bill Mulligan to run here…
I hate it when the side of an argument I agree with argues it badly.
[He then quoted much of my posting which you can read by scrolling down.]
Yeah, you kind of left out a few parts to the story, like almost all of it. One could quibble with whether or not they "announced" their ban on gay marriage pizza catering or just answered a hypothetical posed by a reporter who apparently could not find any actual example of how the new law would impact gay people. Since I think such examples actually do exist I'll chalk that up to laziness. Still, I would hope you would not want to give the impression that this was something the pizza purveyors "announced" on their own initiative.
This was followed by a torrent of activity by people who agree with me on gay marriage and decided to advocate for it in the worst way possible; engage in the usual 2 minute internet hatefest. Some of it was harmless — snarky facebook posts (guilty). Some less so — I object to using review sites to lower the rating of businesses and individuals over political differences. That's not what they are for. And some went so far as to issue threats. I do not doubt for a minute that you agree with me that this is both stupidly counter productive and illegal.
It was the reaction to those threats that fueled the gofundme counter protest (which is what it really was). Leaving that out seems dishonest. Even if you think that they over exaggerated the extent and seriousness of those threats, it seems to me it is very disingenuous to say that the money was sent as a simple reward for their anti gay stance regarding pizza catering.
You can check out [this article] if you doubt me. They mention the threats in the very first line and expand on it later: "The ensuing firestorm, including threats to burn down and rob the place, sent the O'Connors into hiding."
Again, one can certainly speculate on whether or not they overreacted. Frankly, I think it's become a bit ridiculous how every anonymous internet bully gets elevated to the level of Sirhan Sirhan. I don't run to the fainting couch every time someone named Riotgrrrl81 gets a case of the sadz over something I wrote and wishes me ill. But it's a big part of the story and I expect better of you than to leave it out.
Frankly, the story annoys the hell out of me. My side won the day, scored the winning basket with a slam dunk and somehow fouled out. Way. To. Go. Now these toothless goobers, with what I suspect is probably sub-par pizza, look like the victims. The rich victims.
You had me until your last paragraph, Bill. I wouldn't call anyone a "goober" and I certainly wouldn't call them a "toothless goober" without a dental examination. I wouldn't even assume the worst about their pizza without tasting it. (I've had good pizza in Indiana, though I've never been to their establishment or even their city.)
But the part before is right: I did read a number of stories about the pizza place but apparently not the right ones. The people didn't "announce" it and certainly didn't deserve the grief and threats. No one does even if they'd said a lot worse than they did and said it more deliberately…so I'm running this to correct that part of the record.
Still, I stand by what I said about the bigger picture here. There's money in verbal gay-bashing and most of the money donated was probably from folks cheering on anyone who seems to be on their side. The writer and website that launched the fund-raiser are of that ilk, constantly trying to extract money from people by telling them their lives and rights are in danger. You can make a very good living that way and maybe even get elected. Look at all the people who believe that Gay Marriage will mean the end of Straight Marriage but can't explain why. That's a line widely spread by those profiting from that fear.
I appreciate the correction, Bill. There was more to this story than I realized.